Therapy is Dead. You’re Not.
A Private Relationship Consultancy
Structured work on relationships and intimacy with clarity, direction, and lasting change.
For years I watched people stay stuck in the same painful relational cycles despite insight, effort, and good intentions. Therapy Is Dead is built for clients seeking a more direct, structured approach to change, one that combines clinical depth with relational strategy.
Jo Flannery, LMFT, Clinical Sexologist
Stuck in the same arguments? Has intimacy become a negotiation?
You need a clear way forward. You do not need more circular conversations. Traditional therapy explores the why. We focus on the what now. Therapy tends to be open-ended. You go until you feel better, or until you stop going, which is a model that works for some issues. For others who want a clear path to a specific outcome, a consultancy format is a better option.
You will receive actionable strategies and tools to:
Break cycles of conflict
Improve your sex life
Rebuild authentic communication
Rekindle desire and secure connection
Navigate complex relational dynamics with greater clarity
We work with people who are ready to stop negotiating passion and start building it. Whether you are part of a couple or polycule we will help you navigate your relationship questions toward meaningful change.
The 1-3-1 Framework
Three Hours. One Objective: Change That Lasts.
The process is structured by design. It has a beginning, a middle, and an end. It is built for people who want to know what they are signing up for and what they're working toward.
Phase 1: The Strategy Session
Diagnose the Pattern. Clarify the Focus.
A single 90-minute consultation with you as a couple, or with all partners present. We map the cycles keeping you stuck, identify what you have been trying that is not working, and build a focus for your specific relationship dynamic.
You will leave this meeting with two things: 1) a clear understanding of what is actually happening in your relationship and 2) what needs attention next.
Phase 2: The 3-Hour Deep Dive
Understand. Design. Prepare.
A concentrated 3-hour session focused on understanding your unique dynamic. We identify opportunities for improvement across communication, conflict, intimacy, and connection. We work through real scenarios and begin shaping tools you can actually use.
For polycules, this might mean constellation-wide work. For couples, it's dedicated time to understand what is happening between you and what needs to shift.
This is the discovery and design phase. It is not always comfortable, but it is always productive. By the end, you will have clear strategies for what comes next.
Phase 3: The Future-Cast Session
Implement. Iterate. Integrate.
A final session focused on putting the work into practice. We will review what has been clarified, practice the tools, identify what could still trip you up, and build a simple maintenance plan so you leave with confidence, not dependence. *90-minute booster sessions can be scheduled as needed.
The Bespoke Retainer
One Month. Deep Involvement. Individual Attention.
This retainer is a cumulative arc of joint and individual meetings. Each session builds on the last.
Introductory Meeting (90 minutes)
Diagnose the pattern. Clarify the focus.
We map the cycles keeping you stuck. We identify what you have been trying that is not working. We build a focus for your specific dynamics.
You leave with two things: 1) a clear understanding of what is happening in your relationship, 2) and what needs attention next.
Intensive
Understand. Design. Prepare.
A concentrated 3-hour meeting. We identify opportunities across communication, conflict, intimacy and connection. We work through real scenarios. We begin shaping tools.
For polycules, this may be constellation-wide work. It is always dedicated time to understand what is happening for you and between you and your partner(s).
This is discover and design. It is not aways comfortable. It is always enlightening and productive.
Meet Individually
Each partner meets with me privately for 45 to 60 minutes. Individual time is used to process the work up until that point, and receive feedback to prepare for the coming intensive.
Intensive
Implement. Test. Adjust.
We put the tools into practice and work through the dynamics shifting in your relationship in real time. Here is where the work is embodied. It is not only understood, but lived.
Meet Individually
Deeper processing. More feedback. More preparation. You build your confidence and you become more secure in yourself and your own process.
Intensive
Integrate. Solidify. Plan.
We bring everything together. We review what has changed, and you practice under guided observation. We identify possible issues you may experience moving forward and how to plan to divert them.
Follow-up Meeting (60-90 minutes)
Lock it in.
A final joint session to review the arc of our work together, highlight important takeaways and discuss any final details.
Investment: Begins at $4,500. A custom proposal is provided after an initial assessment.
A Note on the Work
This is not light coaching. This is in depth psychotherapy applied to your relationship.
I am trained in psychodynamic and systemic approaches. That means I will ask you about your childhood. I will identify patterns that started long before your relationship.
This work surfaces difficult emotions. You may feel exposed, frustrated, or tender. That is normal. That is the work.
Some clients choose to have a relationship and/or individual therapist in addition to working with me. I fully support that, and may recommend it. I can provide referrals as needed.
If you want surface-level tools without emotional depth, I am not the consultant for you.
If you want to understand why you are the way you are — and then do something about it — this is the place.
FOR RELATIONSHIPS
Ready for a Strategy That Works?
You know the feeling. The conversation starts the same way, goes to the same place, and ends with the same silence. You love each other, but you seem to be stuck in a loop and you cannot find the exit.
Here is what we do: look at the pattern, name it clearly, and give you a different way to handle it. Not a theory. A protocol. A method you can actually use at 7pm on a Tuesday when everyone is tired and the old habit wants to take over.
This work is for people who want their relationships to function as well as the rest of their lives do.
All relationships are welcome. All structures are respected. The only requirement is a genuine commitment to showing up and doing the work.
FOR POLYCULES & MULTI-PARTNER RELATIONSHIPS
Complex Relationships Need Clear Structures
Polyamory, open relationships, and multi-partner constellations are beautiful, fulfilling, and genuinely complex. They also come with challenges that traditional therapy was never designed to address.
When there are more than two of you, communication multiplies. So do schedules, agreements, and the potential for misunderstanding. You need frameworks that account for everyone—not just tools built for couples awkwardly stretched to fit.
We work with your whole constellation on:
Creating agreements that function for everyone
Navigating jealousy and compersion without shame
Building communication protocols for the group, not just pairs
Managing logistics without losing connection
Repairing ruptures when they involve multiple people and perspectives
This is practical, grounded work for people doing relationships differently. You built something that does not fit the default mold. You deserve support that doesn't either.
SHALL WE BEGIN?
Apply for a Confidential Consultation
If any of this resonates, the next step is simple. Fill out the brief form below. I will read it personally and respond within 48 hours to schedule a 20-minute conversation. We’ll assess for mutual fit.
In that call, we will:
Clarify what you're hoping to address
Answer any questions you have about the process
Determine together if this is the right fit.
No pressure. Just a conversation to see if we should work together
A Note on Investment:
Sessions range from $XXX-$XXX depending on the engagement. All details are discussed transparently in our initial conversation.